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Tip 682: Tell people you're shopping around. |
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Ifand only ifyour adviser will ultimately know that you did or did not take his or her advice, state that subtly up front. Some people think advice given should be advice taken. When they discover that you discarded their feedback, they feel rejected and upset. If you think that may be the case, when you solicit feedback, say something like: "I'm shopping for personal experience about how supervising at-home employees has worked for various managers. What's your opinion on that arrangement?" Or: "I'm undecided about how to approach a client. I've asked several of our field reps how they handled the problem of X. I'm also interested in your expertise. If you were I, how do you think you'd handle the situation?" |
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Then later if you don't follow their advice, they assume someone else was more persuasive, that the details somehow changed, that theirs was a minority opinion, or that you weren't particularly committed to following anyone's advice. |
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Tip 683: Thank people for their solicited feedback and advice. |
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Be specific when thanking others; tell them exactly what facts or insights will be most helpful to you. Specific thanks sounds more sincere than global praise. Even if you didn't find the feedback particularly helpful or insightful, thank people for the time and effort involved. After all, they could have been eating, sleeping, working, or playing. |
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