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Women are more intuitive than men. They take words and examine them for nuances of meanings. They talk about talk and contemplate the how and why of what was said or left unsaid; they are fascinated by human interactions and motivations. A woman pays great attention to tone of voice when spoken to. Her own tone tends to be excited, upbeat, emotional, friendly, light, and soft. Women use inflection to emphasize feelings and key points. When women sense a problem in a relationship, they're inclined to bring it up and discuss it, "to work things out." They deal with stress by talking about it. In other words, the complete messagewords and meaningsregister on a woman's mind. |
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Men tend to take words at face value. They do not concern themselves necessarily with how or why things are said and gloss over reasons behind actions if those reasons don't change "reality." Men are less attentive to tone when spoken to. Their own tone is more matter-of-fact or blunt, with little intensity. Men use volume to emphasize key points. If men sense a problem in a relationship, they're inclined to ignore it and hope it will disappear. Men deal with stress in a relationship by withdrawing. In other words, men tend to focus primarily on the words of a message. |
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Tip 997 (for women): Guard against an attempt to decipher meaning and motivation that degenerates into gossip. |
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Tip 998 (for women): Prevent "Reading into" words more than is intended. |
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Tip 999 (for men): Don't miss real messages by concentrating only on the words. |
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Tip 1000 (for men): Welcome discussions to improve relationships. |
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