Children handle life better when they are faced with predictable situations and environments, although occasional disruptions are tolerated.
When you have met the person you think will be your next spouse, introduce him or her to your children and let them get to know each other over a period of time. Don't rush or push them together. Their relationship will grow naturally. Never introduce a date to your children until you are committed to the new relationship.
If your children feel that their importance to you has been overshadowed by your new family, reassure them that their relationship with you is special and that nothing and no one can replace them. Tell them that they're number one with you.
The stepparent is not the children's parent. Children should be parented by their biological parent, unless there is an emergency. The stepparent is the parent's spouse and is an adult living in the house who should be respected, but is not the children's parent.
Don't expect your ex-spouse to maintain the same house rules as you do. Teach your children to respect the rules in the other parent's home. Explain to your children that every home or public place has its own rules that must be followed.
Blended families thrive when everyoneincluding the childrenhas his or her own space and privacy and is treated with respect.
