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Women tend to nag more than men. Because of their nurturing instinct with children, they often feel compelled to train, to improve, to help. If others don't follow their "nurturing," their tone often becomes whiny, petulant, or angry. |
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Men nag less because their attention focuses more on their own behavior and performance than on that of others. Men don't mind women nagging them if they interpret such remarks to be affectionate. ("Honey, don't forget your overcoatI don't want you to get another cough and be sick for the weekend.") They resent nagging that they interpret to be disapproving or "telling them what to do." ("Would you clean up the mess you made with the newspapers and mail on the dining table?'') |
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Tip 951 (for women): Nag less; Show caring in other ways. |
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Tip 952 (for women): Offer appreciation for behavior you want to encourage rather than disapproval for behavior you dislike. |
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Tip 953 (for men): Appreciate the reason behind affectionate nagging. |
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Women generally show affection openly. They compliment people and express pleasure directly. They laugh and cry more often than men. When arguing, women bring up past wrongs because they see the relationship as fluid and evolving; they accuse more and hold grudges longer. They apologize more readily and easily. They do not see arguments as a contest and can bear the burden of being wrong. Women are motivated when they feel liked or loved. |
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Men tend to show affection less directly, through action. They compliment people less and instead use sarcasm and teasing to show liking. They laugh or cry less often than women. When arguing, men stick to the problem at hand, accuse less, hold fewer grudges, and forgive sooner. They apologize less and with difficulty. Men often see disagreements as a contest and insist on being |
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