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In this day and age, with families taking so many forms and with divorce so prevalent, couples feel quite comfortable including single friends. Psychologist Mitchell Baris, an expert on divorce, says that in his experience, couples continue to invite their divorced friends along, just as they would if they were married. It's usually the divorced individual who feels he or she does not fit in. The married couple is usually happy to have their friend along, with or without a date or spouse. |
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And remember, divorced people most often meet their next spouse through friends. |
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Support Groups, Classes, and Clubs |
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In addition to friends, you may be able to find sustenance from support groups in your community or online. Peruse the resource guide in the back of this book to locate groups for mothers, fathers, singles, and more. |
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Just one word of caution: Do avoid any group that thrives on anger and hatred instead of nurturing support. If you find a group with a political agenda on many of the issues swirling around the divorce world, you may find some like-minded souls. But you may not get help in coming to terms with your feelings of anger and rejection, steps you must take to heal. If your support group fosters externalization of such feelings around an issue instead of promoting understanding and inner growth, you may be in the wrong place. If your support group encourages you to continue to battle with your ex instead of letting things simmer down so that you can move on, you may be better off without the group at all. |
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Sometimes, the best way to drown your sorrows and move on with your life is to pursue a passion long ignored. Take a class in Chinese cooking; follow your dream of a career in journalism; take a trip around the world. |
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The point is to get out therein ways that excite youand meet new people who feel the same. |
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How to Utilize Your Professional Life to Help You Move On |
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For most people, work, whatever form it takes, is a source of identity. It defines us in society and the world. Especially for the newly divorced, a job that provides fulfillment is key. |
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If you are not currently working, if you have put your career on hold, now is the time to avail yourself of the many training programs available to help you render yourself marketable or acquire new skills. |
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