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If you are not working at the time of your divorce and your obligations to your children permit, consider this an opportunity to get out in the work world. It's a great way to meet people. Of course, your divorce decree should allow you to earn some money without penalizing your support payments from your spouse. |
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Vocational counselors can help you find a direction. And myriad groups for displaced homemakers will aid you in finding starting positions that pay enough to support yourself and your family now. |
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What about just changing your job as a way of changing your life, even if you have a good job now? |
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That idea may not be as good as it sounds. After all, you don't want to compound your losses, do you? For the divorced and the divorcing, the impulse to get up and flee is strong. |
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But if you've got a good job, and if that part of your life is functioning well, then you might look there for the stability and centering you most certainly need. |
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Even if your job leaves something to be desired, do be wary about changing too many factors at once. |
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The Least You Need to Know |
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No matter how attached you may have been to your in-laws during your marriage, clinging to this relationship now may make it difficult for you to move on with your life. The healthiest resolution, in the aftermath of divorce, is to distance yourself from your spouse's family. No matter how fond you are of these people, it is time to let go. |
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Some friends may find it difficult to stay in touch with both you and your spouse following divorce. |
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Married friends will, in general, be happy to include you regardless of whether you have a date. |
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Beware of support groups that work to sustain your anger instead of helping you move on. |
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Don't quit your job too rashly in the aftermath of your divorce; familiar tasks and colleagues at the office may provide an important touchstone. |
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