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Tip 900 (for women): Discuss details to show concern. |
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Continue to ask questions and discuss situations that friends and colleagues toss out as means of showing support and interest. Whether or not men reciprocate when the situation is reversed should not inhibit your own caring attitude. |
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Tip 901 (for women): Don't jump to the conclusion that men don't care about a situation simply because they don't ask for or give details. |
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Realize that men may not discuss details simply because they are not in the habit of doing so. |
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Tip 902 (for men): Use women's inclination to discuss details to verify your understanding of a problem or situation. |
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Realize that big-picture messages may be invalid if the detail selection and sifting process is hurried. Take advantage of a woman's penchant for such detailed analysis of a problem to make sure solutions you generate are solutions to the right problem. |
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Tip 903 (for men): Pay attention to details to show concern. |
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For example, a discussion of the colors of the new lobby decor may mean to a female engineer that you understand and care that the success of the renovation project will be important to her career. |
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Women talk to build rapport with others, and to explore their own feelings and opinions. Consequently, they consider most subjects worthy of conversation. And they often talk about personal topics such as relationships, family, experiences, and activities. To women, an important aspect of conversation is simply "connecting" emotionally with another person. The information exchanged is secondary to that connection. |
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Men, on the other hand, tend to view conversation for exchanging information or solving problems. They discuss events, facts, happenings in the |
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