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Tip 937 (for men): Don't equate a woman's commitment or passion for an idea to her willingness to compete to gain acceptance of that idea. |
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Evaluate ideas on their own merit, not someone's delivery of them or willingness to parade them repetitively throughout a discussion. |
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OPINIONS: TAKE 'EM OR LEAVE 'EM |
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Women ask for men's opinions in their attempt to explore their own feelings and come to conclusions. They may or may not make their decisions based on the opinions offered by others. When persuading their colleagues to come to a decision, women generally prefer building consensus rather than pulling rank. |
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Men ask for opinions less often. And when they give requested opinions they often state their opinions as fact and consider the effort wasted when women do not act or make a decision based on those offered opinions. When persuading their colleagues to come to a decision, men generally prefer dictating a solution rather than "wasting time" to build consensus. |
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Results: (1) Men think women waste their own and others' time "shopping" for opinions they don't use. (2) Women sometimes think male bosses "run over" them with decisions. (3) Men get frustrated when they can't tell if their female bosses are stating an opinion or a command. (4) Women get frustrated when male subordinates don't comply with what they themselves think are clear directives. |
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Tip 938 (for women): Make it clear in requesting an opinion that you intend only to evaluate the opinion and come to your own conclusions. |
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Tip 939 (for women): Determine whether to build consensus or dictate a decision on a case-by-case basis. |
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Tip 940 (for women): Make sure subordinates know when you're giving an opinion or making a request versus stating a decision or a directive. |
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