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Tip 941 (for men): Offer your opinions without expectation or obligation that a woman will act or decide based on them. |
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Tip 942 (for men): Work to build consensus when you want buy-in from others on a decision and want others to feel valued for their input. |
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Tip 943 (for men): Make sure subordinates know they have a choice in a situation if you mean your opinion as a preference rather than a directive. |
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DIRECTNESS OR INDIRECTNESS? |
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Women's language tends to be indirect, discreet, tactful, and at times manipulative. Women tend to give fewer directives and use more courtesy words with those directives. (Examples: "The approach is not exactly foreign to our designers" meaning "They are familiar with it." "Mary may not be available to handle the project'' meaning "Mary doesn't want to handle the project." "Jerry, I have complete confidence in the way you deal with such customersI trust you completely to make these kinds of decisions" meaning "I hope you'll keep taking care of these headaches without bothering me about them.") |
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Men's language tends to be direct, powerful, blunt, and even offensive. Men generally give more directives, with fewer courtesy words. (Examples: "Tom blew the deal with that client because of his stubborn refusal to negotiate on the delivery." "I will not approve that expenseit's unnecessary in my estimation." "That's a half-baked idea if I ever heard one. You're dead wrong.") |
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Tip 944 (for women): Use straightforward language if you want to make sure your message gets heard. |
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Tip 945 (for women): Be objective and to-the-point so as not to dilute performance feedback to a colleague or subordinate. |
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