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Tip 631. Guard against overreaction on your sore spots. |
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Tip 632. Maintain your emotional equilibrium. |
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Tip 633. Be willing to accept responsibility without accepting blame. |
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Tip 634. Avoid taking all as "absolute truth." |
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Tip 635. Separate opinions from descriptions. |
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Tip 636. Listen to someone's criticism without interruption. |
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Tip 637. Consider the source. |
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Tip 638. Consider the emotional climate. |
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Tip 639. Ask yourself if others have made the same observations. |
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Tip 640. Agree with the criticism. |
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Tip 641. Ask for thinking time. |
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Tip 642. Express regret about the results of a situation. |
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Tip 643. Limit the application of the criticism to your goals while discarding the unusable. |
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Tip 644. Thank the criticizer for helpful comments. |
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Tip 645. Ask how the other person would have handled the situation. |
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Tip 646. Change the mistakes you alone control. |
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Tip 647. Rechannel your emotions to concentrate on your mission. |
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Tip 648. Agree on a plan for change and set timelines. |
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Tip 649. If you can't change, cancel bitterness as an alternative. |
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Tip 650. Keep yourself physically and spiritually strong. |
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Tip 651. Recall your list of strengths. |
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Tip 652. Don't take yourself too seriously. |
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Tip 653. Know your own motives for offering advice or feedback. |
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Tip 654. Don't sneak advice into informational statements. |
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Tip 655. Nudge people to ask for advice, but be willing to wait. |
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Tip 656. Identify what kind of advice the other person wants. |
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Tip 657. Remember the purpose of advice/feedback. |
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Tip 658. Stifle the urge to give premature feedback or advice. |
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Tip 659. Continue to test the water as you go along. |
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Tip 660. Ask for clarification on comments you don't understand. |
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Tip 661. Feel free to offer the opposing view. |
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Tip 662. Use the appropriate tone. |
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Tip 663. Play the part of coach. |
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Tip 664. Make war stories realistic. |
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Tip 665. Go around the "friend of mine" framing. |
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Tip 666. Share "I once did/thought/had" stories with those who need feedback but won't ask for it. |
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Tip 667. Remember that the other person has final say about the advice. |
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Tip 668. Don't offer a money-back guarantee. |
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Tip 669. Be firm when you don't want advice or feedback; don't give mixed signals. |
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