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"Your clothes are fascinating/classy/so colorful." |
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"Where do you call home?" |
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"So, have you spent your entire career in this industry?" |
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"Do you come here often?" |
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"Do you know many of these people?" |
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"This group sounds like the one having the most fun. May I join? I could use a laugh." |
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"You people look like movers and shakers. May I join you?" |
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"This group looks so intense. I'm wondering what the topic is?" |
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"I've just been standing here listening, but you've touched a passionate chord in me. I think . . ." |
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"I've got a question. Do you know if . . . ?" |
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"I need help. Can you tell me where I could find . . . ?" |
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"I've always been interested in X, but know very little about it. Can you tell me more about it?" |
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"I've always wished I knew more about starting a business or managing people? What's the most difficult thing you face?" |
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"I'm always interested in unusual names. Tell me the origin of yours." |
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"So what's going on in your life now?" |
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"We haven't talked in awhile. Give me an update on X." |
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"You know, I see you often, but I don't think we've met. My name's Barbara." |
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Tip 212: To stir quiet people to expression, select a topic about which they can feel passionate. |
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Such conversational options as patriotism, gratitude, respect, generosity, hatred, or morality tug at the shy person's heart to speak up and offer feelings and opinions. |
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Tip 213: Know which topics to avoid. |
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Religion. Politics. Race. Ethnic groups. Family. Economics. Frightening probabilities. Criticisms of others. Personal tidbits about others. Personal problems such as your ex-spouse's shenanigans or your daughter's drug problem. |
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Avoid any subject that equates to a rutdon't be known as the person with the one-channel chat. Of course, any of these topics may be appropriate with |
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