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18. Do not buy a car or make any other purchase likely to cause financial strain once there are suddenly two households to maintain. Sorry fellows, but the number of men who buy brand new cars while they are starting divorce proceedings is staggering. The payments financially devastate them, and their wives use the existence of the car as proof of ability to pay for all sorts of other expenses. Resist. |
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19. Make sure that your spouse is the first, not the last, to know your plans. Although you may consult with friends before you take the plunge, be sure that they know loose lips sink ships. |
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20. If possible, do not move out of the marital residence. You will weaken your position on custody and possibly personal property if you move. |
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When Your Spouse's Desire to Divorce Takes You By Surprise |
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Every so often, the specter of divorce takes you by surprise. One man we know, a naturalist in California, lived high in the mountains of La Crescenta teaching school children and giving tours. He was thrilled to receive a free cabin near the forest for himself and his new wife and really felt life could not possibly be more grand. One dayin what to the naturalist seemed out of the bluehis wife announced she could not take another day of it and wanted a divorce. It turned out she missed the city lifethe shops, the restaurants, the bars. She packed her suitcase, and the next morning she was gone. |
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Another man, this one from Malibu, had taken his wife out to dinner with a couple of friends in town for the weekend. Halfway through the meal, she stood up, stretched and yawned, and announced. I'm just so sleepy, I'll have to meet you guys back at home. When the man arrived back at his beach house, guests in tow, his wife was nowhere to be found. Indeed, despite the embarrassment she caused her husband in front of his friends, |
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