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that I'm left alone, what should I do with myself? for instance, you might say, Now that I'm free, I'm no longer bound by all these constricting rules and traditions. I don't have to do it someone else's way. I can do it my way and express the person I really am. |
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Instead of drowning in despair, allow yourself to experience some definition as an individual. Spend your newfound time alone deciding what you value, what you think, and what you like to do. Then take some positive steps to integrate those elements into your life as best you can. If you enjoy athletics, join a gym. If you value culture, season tickets to the local theater is your due. If you love music, join a choir and meet people who like to sing. |
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As you move out of your cocoon to pursue your true interests, you will meet other, like-minded people. Your new life alone in society can begin. |
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Even if you don't have much money, try to find a new apartment with some basic qualitiessuch as a decent kitchen, cleanliness, and light. In the future, you will bring a new date home to this simple abode. |
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Don't stretch the budget too much when seeking a new apartment or home. Remember, you are in the midst of transition, and you may need to move once or twice more before you truly settle down. |
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In your new home, surrounded by your new possessions, you will, slowly but surely, let go of the past. One of the best techniques, experts have found, is to develop rituals and traditions of your own. |
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After your divorce, spend your newfound time alone deciding what you value, what you think, and what you like to do. Then take some positive steps to integrate those elements into your life as best you can. |
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