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Don't Make the Same Mistake Twice |
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When Nat divorced his first wife, Reva, after coming home to discover her in bed with the doorman, the thought of dealing with things alone simply overwhelmed him. Without taking time to resolve his feelings of hurt and rejection, he involved himself with Sharon. She, too, was unfaithful. She had a series of affairs throughout their marriage, and finally, announced she wanted a divorce. |
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When Sharon left, Nat was devastated. He had been married to Reva for three years and Sharon for two; but in retrospect, it felt as if he'd been married to one womana Reva-Sharon hybridfor five. |
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In the two years of relative solitude following the breakup of his second marriage, Nat went into therapy and was able to understand events in the context of his early life. His rejecting parents, he came to realize, had set him up for rejection in love. Using this realization, he had better defenses against making a devastating marital choice again. |
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