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When Legal and Emotional Needs Conflict: Forced Togetherness |
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Sometimes, despite the positive impact of formal separation, couples stay together for legal and financial reasons until the day of the divorce decree. There are a number of reasons why this is often legally advisable. If you seek full or joint custody of the childrenor if you just want a generous visitation schedulestaying in the house will help your cause. Leaving, in fact, often puts you at a tremendous disadvantage in any legal proceeding. Although the opinions expressed here, as in the rest of the book, do not constitute legal advice, the decision to stay or leave is so important that we strongly advise you to consult your attorney before any change is made. |
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Leaving may make it easier for your spouse to delay the signing of divorce papers, putting you at a strategic disadvantage. Indeed, many times a spouse will just want you out of the house, but because of economic circumstances, will be reluctant to move forward with divorce. Once you leave, your spouse will have little incentive to move quickly. The longer your spouse delays the divorce, the more frustrated you will become, and the more likely you will be to sign an agreement less favorable to yourself. On the other hand, if you stay on, your spouse will be the frustrated one; you will have the upper hand during negotiations. |
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And finally, for those who are particularly money consciousand who isn't these daysthe longer you and your spouse share the same home, the more money you will save. |
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If you've decided to stay in the house until the divorce is over, turn one section into your camp. If you are the one who has moved out of the bedroom, do notwe repeat, do |
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